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Get over it, YOU’RE NOT YOUR STORY

Ever experienced asking after somebody and instead of using their names, you say something like;                                   “Don’t you know that lady that lost her husband?” or

“That man that was sacked” or

“The girl that was raped” or

“That man that bought a new house just arrived now”.

..Even in the bible…a lady was referred to as “the woman with the issue of blood” I still don’t know her name. Do you?

Wait a minute, all these people we just gossiped about, yes gossiped!… Don’t they have names??

Do you honestly feel that this is a fair way to identify a person? Like seriously!!!!

Ab-so-lute-ly Not!!!

Ohhhhh!!!! truth is, we cannot control what people say or how they choose to identify us.Read more

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Just Show-Up

Someone once said that “continuity is delivering consistently, constantly, continuously, quality results”. Actually, I really don’t understand the meaning all that show-off of big grammar in one simple sentence. Am confused!

For my health, I try to keep up with an exercise regime. Usually waking up 5:00 am to exercise. Few times I wake up pumped up for my exercise sessions. But the majority of the times I just drag myself out of bed, struggle to dress up and manage to just sluggishly walk around. On those slow days, I don’t do much. It more like managing to show up and just taking a few steps and truthfully sometimes just sitting down and watching others.

I know many of you perfect fellas are already judging me in your hearts. Some.. saying “is it not better to stay back in bed than waste your time?” ….oh yeah! Tell me something!

someone else even muttered “is it by force? rubbish!!”.

Calm down, there is more. Many times, I push and force myself to leave the house, with the mentality of “let me just show face”? I start my exercise routine sluggishly or maybe I sit-down. But before I realize it, I do more than I ever thought I would. Sometimes someone or something happens and boom!!!!! I get inspired to start working out. Other times after taking a few steps, the energy surges on its own. Very rarely do I go out for exercise and end up doing nothing even though the initial plan is to just show up.

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Love YOURself

There are so many schools of thoughts in the attempt to define love. Majority of people think that love is a feeling. Weeeellllll!!!! goooood feeeeling or maybe a goofy feeling. I laugh hard!!

Others say it’s a choice. And so on. Whichever is yours, at least we all agree that there is a certain good feeling that accompanies or is produced by love.

When in love the whole world appears beautiful, your hope comes alive, you think possibilities, you walk with a sprint and your energy level is at its highest.  Obviously, it produces positive and wonderful vibes at its peak.

No wonder God commands us to love. But then, he said to love “the other” as YOURself. That means that love begins with “yourself”. You do not love yourself, you do not have what it takes to love the other. So how do you give of that which you are bankrupt of?

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STEPPING DOWN FOR PROGRESS

Making progress in life doesn’t necessarily mean speeding forward along the path in front of you. Sometimes progress means stepping down and backing down and backing out. I know, those words sound frightening already. But we are looking to make the right choice for tomorrow, or aren’t you?

Put another way, sometimes, your ultimate achievement in life maybe tied to you letting go and stepping down from what you have become a master of.

The barrier between you and your next season in life may be tied to your ability to step down from your status, your right, class, entitlement, position or what you ve’ learnt over the years.

Judging from the surface, it’s painful when faced with such decisions. And ultimately takes a lot of courage. And that why lots of people never achieve their highest potentials. For,  to step forward, you may need to step down. To win the war, you may need to retreat.Read more

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THE CURSE OF THE GIFTED CHILD

“Carolllll !!!!!!”
“I know this will be your fault!”
“Over Sabi house wife!”
“Busy body!”
“Know! Know!”
“You always think you know too much!”

Growing up as a little girl and acting out, these were the words constantly hurled at me. I was very innocent, naive and carefree. But I was a gifted child and a loud one.  Intelligent, articulate, fearless and quick to express my opinion on any issues.  Little did I know that my personality was a threat to so many around me.

Back then kids my age either avoided me because they felt intimidated or tried to be my friend and just tagged along. Most of the older folks in an attempt to control or tame me, would constantly criticize, abuse or compare me with other kids with more subdued and less intimidating personalities. And of course, made it clear that I was a problem and they preferred the other kids

Yet there were some who because of my swag and the prospect of a great future they saw in me were convinced that I would be the next big thing. So, they placed me on a very high pedestal based on their high expectations of me. And the truth is I couldn’t cope. I lost myself and started living for people. Most of the time I had to act to keep up “the image” and people’s expectations of me. God!!!! I was lonely. I was just a child acting act and longing for acceptance.Read more

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A MAN’S DESTINY, NOT WHAT IT SEEMS

“A man destiny is often not what it seems”, this is a line that resonated deeply with me from a movie I was seeing a few days back and left my mind with boggling questions.

Most often in life, our assessment of people and situations is wrong. Well perhaps am a bit too harsh here. But hey! you bet am right. We can only see so much. The truth we tell most of the time is half or outrightly untrue; because we can only tell the much we know. Filtered through the lenses of our experiences and exposures. It’s no news, no one knows it all.

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Buy Tomorrow Today

Everything in life is a process. The process also has phases. Every phase in life requires a price to be paid to qualify us to move to the next and then the next, until we get to our goals.

Ultimately, everything in life has a price. Everything in life comes at a cost. And for somethings the cost is higher than others. This statement is very true for things that are of true value in life.

The value we place on things or people determines how much we are willing to pay as a price. Funny enough, the price to be paid for a whole lot of things in life cannot be monetized. Indeed, there so many things money cannot buy. This makes it much more difficult as well as demanding on our character.

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SELF, WHO ARE YOU?

I Wake up to you in the morning, Meal per meal you are right by me. All day long right up to the night season when I fall back asleep you never leave me. Sometimes I wonder searching all around for the chains that tie me to you.
Really, I can’t seem to detach myself from you and because I am attached to you I am forced to do whatever you do.

What a predicament I find myself. But who are you? Why do you stalk me so?. Reality just hit me that we are stuck together for life.

You and you alone in a room full of people as well as in the solitude of our quiet meetings…huge sigh. But you are weird how do I live with you?

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SELF, WHO ARE YOU?

I Wake up to you in the morning, Meal per meal you are right by me. All day long right up to the night season when I fall back asleep you never leave me. Sometimes I wonder searching all around for the chains that tie me to you.
Really, I can’t seem to detach myself from you and because I am attached to you I am forced to do whatever you do.

What a predicament I find myself. But who are you? Why do you stalk me so?. Reality just hit me that we are stuck together for life. You and you alone in a room full of people as well as in the solitude of our quiet meetings…huge sigh. But you are weird how do I live with you?

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PUT YOUR LIFE IN ORDER

Have you ever tried wearing your shoes on your head? Or wearing your cap on your legs to walk?, Sounds funny and weird right?. Now, try seating on your chest And eating with your nose, Yes! you wouldn’t want to imagine the feeling!

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